Why You feel like You can't do anything right

 

Dear Bloggers,

My apologies for writing my story late again. Things are a bit more difficult at the moment, as my is catching up with me and I’m not quite myself. And yes, that’s affecting my inspiration.

If you've ever felt like you can't do anything right, you might think you're the only one who has experienced that feeling. The truth, though, is that it's perfectly common to feel this way, and it happens to most of us at one time or another.

In a world where so much of how we experience other people in our digital world, it's easy to forget that the version we view of our friends, colleagues, and loved ones is the one they want us to see. Most people share photos and stories about the good times in their lives. And most do not share about when they're having a hard time in life.

There are different reasons why you might experience this feeling, and many assorted actions you can take to help alleviate it. Read on to learn why you might be feeling this way, and how to turn things around in your mind.

Why You Feel Like You Can't Do Anything Right

There are endless reasons why you might experience the thoughts and feelings that nothing you do in life is right; these are some of the most common reasons. Feeling Overwhelmed by Stress.

It's a common motif in our culture, especially since a pandemic began years ago. Stress makes life feel overwhelming, and it can impact our ability to think clearly. If you're feeling nervous, worried, anxious, or depressed, and you don't have a chronic condition involving those feelings, chances are that you're stressed.It might feel like it doesn't make sense to you that a simple task or project feels like too much, but it's important to understand that our brains, nervous systems, and hearts have really been through the wringer since 2024.

When you're feeling overwhelmed, your mind can slip into a tricky pattern where it feels like you aren't doing anything right. Fortunately, you can learn how to manage stress.

Self-Worth

We all have to be our own biggest champions in life. That's because having good self-esteem may boost your happiness. Having high self-esteem doesn't mean that you think you do everything right all the time, but it does mean that you think you're a person who is capable of doing things right quite often. It also means you know you aren't perfect, and sometimes you make mistakes just like every other imperfect human on earth.
Low self-esteem manifests in different ways, such as not feeling in control of life, having a hard time asking for help, being afraid of failure, not having good boundaries, and not speaking kindly to yourself.

Do you feel like a bully is living inside your head sometimes?

Boosting your self-esteem can help keep your thoughts from sliding down the slippery slope of self-loathing.

How do you Cope With Feeling Like You Never Do Anything Right

While it's normal to sometimes feel like you can't do anything right, that doesn't mean you have to just live with the feeling. Instead, there are a lot of different actions you can take that can help quell this notion and put you back on a positive path in your mind. Don’t let Yourself feel this way. Running away from our problems never makes them go away, and running away from our feelings doesn't allow us to move through them. Sometimes, all you have to do to get past a feeling is stop trying to fight it. When you're feeling like you can't do anything right, take a moment and just let yourself feel that. Once you're feeling a little calmer, try to delve deeper into where the feeling is coming from. This can lead you to understand if there is a larger issue at play that you need to deal with. If you have made a mistake, missed a deadline, burnt dinner, cut your bangs too short, etc. have some grace for yourself. We all make mistakes or miss the mark, and that is how we learn valuable lessons, gain skills, and grow emotionally.

How to achieve Self-acceptance?

Prove Yourself wrong by reviewing what You've done right. This simple task lets you know you're wrong about never doing anything right. In a journal, on your phone, or in a computer document, make a list of things you've accomplished, succeeded at, or done well at in life. It doesn't have to be complicated! Were you a good babysitter for a younger sibling at one time? Did you graduate from high school or college? Have you made a friend laugh recently? All those are things you've done right. And you will find that the good stuff outweighs your less-than-proud moments. We sometimes have to remind ourselves of these things to have a more accurate view of our reality.

Journaling is useful for stress management. It also is a way to visualize that you have, in fact, done many things right in life. Speak to Yourself the way You speak to others. Positive self-talk can get you through tough situations, and can also improve your self-esteem. When you're feeling like you can't do anything right, turn the table on yourself and imagine a friend or loved one saying that to you. What would you say to them? Chances are, you certainly wouldn't agree!

Instead, you'd point out everything you've seen them do right. You'd tell them they are a great person, worthy of thinking highly of themself. When it's hard to speak kindly to ourselves, a way to work around that is to pretend we're speaking to someone else.

Go for a Walk

Not only does walking reduce stress and improve your health, but a change of environment can also help you get out of your negative mind space. Going for a walk is a great way to clear your head of negative thoughts. Stop and smell the flowers, feel the sunshine on your arms, notice the breeze against your face, or say "hi" to a neighbor as you pass them. As you walk, let your thoughts wander away from the idea that you can't do anything right. When you get home, you just might feel a bit better.

Talk to a Friend Or Loved One

Holding your feelings inside isn't conducive to letting them go or, even better, helping them shift into more positive feelings. Talking to others and having connections is vital to human happiness, so even if you're feeling like you don't want to share about this issue, you'll probably feel better once you do.If it seems like there just isn't anyone to talk to, follow these guidelines to get started making and enhancing the human connections in your life.

If you want to talk to someone about this feeling but you're worried, nervous, or embarrassed, you can always text or email first. Asking a friend or loved one if they have the emotional availability to help you work through a difficult feeling is a great way to practice boundaries, and if they say "yes," you'll likely feel safer discussing it, knowing that they have the emotional space held for you.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is a great stress reliever, and it also helps you feel more positively about yourself. Self-care is anything you do for yourself that makes you feel good. It can be physical, such as taking a bath, or emotional, like laying down and listening to relaxing music.

Do a Good Deed

Science has proven that performing kind acts for others helps us feel better ourselves. It's called prosocial behavior, and even if you don't necessarily understand why helping others will make you feel better, know that it does. Acts of kindness toward others aid our emotional well-being, and when you're feeling more positive, chances are your mind won't gravitate toward those self-defeating thoughts. Additionally, a kind act is also something you did right! Everyone wins when you practice being charitable toward other people.

Take a Break

It's not a failure in life if you just need a break. We all need breaks, and we all benefit from taking them! Taking a break reduces stress, makes us more productive overall and clears our heads.

That last benefit is key when you're feeling like you can't do anything right. Taking a break doesn't need to be complicated, and there isn't any specific task you have to perform for it to count. Just pause, ask yourself if you'd like to take a few minutes off, and see where that leads you. If it leads you straight to the couch with your favorite book in hand, that's totally fine! If you want to pet your dog, that's great! If you want to close your eyes for a few minutes, there is nothing wrong with that.

Taking a break is supposed to be enjoyable and unproductive.

When to Seek Professional Help

After trying these suggestions, if you find you are still struggling to reign in those negative thought patterns, you might want to consider seeking professional help. There is a specific type of therapy known as cognitive behavioral therapy that is designed to help you work through your maladaptive thought life and help you find better ways to cope with the stress in your life.

Take care of yourself and your loved ones they are your team mates now

The Old Sailor,

 

Not everyone is getting old

Dear Bloggers,

I’ve done a steady stream of things in life after not being the nicest bloke during my schooldays, I was called by the government to fulfill my Army time at the engineers after that I was assigned to a group that was helping special forces to set people free as they needed our help. After my time was due I started working in the hotel service business during the summerseason, during the wintertime I worked in several factories, After a few years I started sailing with ups and downs down ther I found my life usefull and I was earning a bit of money to built a bit of pension for my old days, and we got married and started our adult life having two lovely daughters. It’s been exciting, frustrating, fun, exhausting, and deeply fulfilling. I am now at the age going towards my pension although in at least 15 years it should be there. But as we all know that life can stop at any moment it is not a choice were having.

At this very moment im at the end of it all, I feel empty. Drained. In need of quiet, rest, and reflection. When I realized I didn’t have the time or the energy to write a new post this month and also last month, I waded through some of the hundreds of posts I’ve written over the last six years. Then today I walked the dogs, I past the cemetry and went there to visit my late parents grave All of a sudden it spoke to me, maybe because the thought of lying down for a long time sounds very appealing right now. I hope it helps you take another step toward becoming myself

I love cemeteries. That might sound odd, even morbid. I’m not insensitive to the memories of pain and loss that they hold for so many. I deeply respect that. But to me, they are special places that nurture my personal development in ways few others do. I have lost quite a few during the years and not all of them were old. Some were in the bloom of there lives and loved living it.

Cemeteries invite quiet reflection. They encourage me to slow down, to ponder, to contemplate. What do I want my life to be about? How do I want to be remembered? There are many questions running around my brain as i realise that there will be one day that it will all end. Cemetries have an atmosphere of reverence and respect, rare qualities in a time often marked by mockery and disunity A stroll through a cemetery reminds me of what I believe is important: Relationships. Character. Purpose. Lust for life.

I love how my perspective is sharpened by reading tombstones. I’m reminded that all of these people were once like me. And most of them here I have known in my earlier years. That one day a grave marker will have my name. Soon after, I’ll probably be remembered only by loved ones and then, over time, by no one at all. It is a strange process of realizing that you are just one of them that will be fogotten after several years. Reading those names reminds me that life is a breath, and I am small. I’m not as important to the world as I sometimes think I am. That’s a healthy dose of modesty. As humans think life is preciuos althoug most of us are struggling to keep our heads up. Many of us are depressed or not being happy what they have achieved in their life.

Yet being in a cemetery also makes me feel cherished, prized, special. Not to a fame infatuated world but to One whom I believe made me, knows me, and desires me. I think of a cemetery as a transition point, a way station, a gate that leads from one season to the next. It’s a passageway connecting us from existence to another. The end of one journey and the start of a far greater adventure. Nobody knows for sure at least that is my way of thinking.

I could be wrong. Maybe death is the end. Perhaps nothing waits for me and everything that I am will be snuffed out like the flame of a candle. But I don’t think so. I have subjective reasons, things I’ve felt and heard and seen that point to something greater, something beyond this life. And there are more objective arguments that appeal to my rational mind as well. So for reasons of both the head and the heart, I believe and find hope.

So if you need some perspective on life, if the thought of some quiet reflection sounds like water for your thirsty soul, if you’re looking for a little hope, I encourage you to slip away for an hour. Stroll thoughtfully through a cemetery. If you do, you’ll take another step toward becoming You.

“Try to be a rainbow in someone else's cloud.”

 

The Old Sailor,