Dear
Bloggers,
This
time I am writing about the need of bucket-lists and why do many
people wait to do these challenges until they are in their last weeks
of their lives. You should be doing these things as soon as you are
able to fix the things that you want to do the most.
One
sure fine way to find out what the really important accomplishments
in life are, is to ask the people who are coming to the end of
theirs. That is exactly what keeps my mind going. Why is it all of a
sudden so important to get these list completed. I wander if they
have really lived life when everything was still normal, I can not
imagine that you did not fulfill your dreams at least the ones that
you can afford.
There
is something so profound in the themes that came up in my mind and
again. It highlights the importance of living each day fully.
Strangely enough swimming with dolphins didn’t come up in my brain,
although that’s not to say you should set this goal aside if it is
important to you. This is what would pop up in my mind but okay I am
not the average guy.
“I
wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me.”
This
is what I think the most common regret of all. When people realize
that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is
easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had
not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that
it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a
freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.” When I was
wearing a younger man's clothes I travelled a great part of the world
and in a later stage of life I started sailing (to get rid of a
traumatic impact on my life.)
“I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
This
is something that many males with me would have on their minds. They
missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
Women also might have this regret, but as most of them only work
part time as they take care of the kids as well, many of the females
that I know are not being breadwinners. If you get sick you start
realizing all kinds of things. And i personally regretted spending
so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.” I
wouldn't have missed the years that I have sailed but somehow there
are some pieces missing.
“I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Many
people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As
a result, they settle for a mediocre existence and never became who
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses
relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
Bitterness is not the way to live your life. I keep somethings inside
as I am a man but I am pretty open if it comes to issues. And I am
speaking myself out.
“I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
Often
you won''t truly realize the full benefits of good old friends until
you are in your dying weeks and it is not always possible to track
them down at that moment. Many have become so caught up in their own
lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years.
There will be many deep regrets, I guess, about not giving
friendships the time and effort that they deserve.
"I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
This
is a surprisingly common one. Many do not realize until the end that
happiness is a choice. They are stuck in old patterns and habits. The
so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their
emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change makes them
pretending to others, and to their selves, that they are so content,
when deep within, they are longing to laugh properly and have
silliness in their life again.” It makes me happy that I do quite a
lot of silly things.
What
are your thoughts? Do you live life without regrets? What is on your
bucket list? If
you want to something bad enough, whether it’s starting a business
or running a marathon or traveling abroad, you should try to get it
done as early as possible in your life. You will have those memories
and that experience within you for the rest of your life.
It’s
never too late to tackle your bucket-list dreams, or to recognize
that your list will grow the more you
grow,
and the more you learn about the world.
But,
when you also give these dreams a sense of urgency and don’t put
them off until "the stars are aligned," you’ll be amazed
at how much life you can fit into your years.
The
Old Sailor,
And of course, do actually contribute to the conversation! Listening properly doesn’t mean you don’t add any value to the conversation. Make sure your verbal communication is an equal and two way process.
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